How I Built A Healthy Social And Love Life While Building A Startup

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Whether you’re working more than 40 hours a week or building your own business, having a good work/life balance is extremely important. Sure, having lots of money is fun, but if you’re always tired and never spend time with friends and family, is it really worth it? While starting your own business is certainly a rewarding experience, not taking the time to have fun outside of your job can have a huge impact on your physical, spiritual, and mental health.

So if you find yourself constantly buried in your work, it’s important to take a step back and consider areas of your personal life that you might be neglecting. Here’s how I was able to build a healthy social and love life while growing my startup — and how you can too.

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The importance of balance

In early 2020, I decided to put all my savings into starting a software startup in my parents’ basement. The best part was that I was 19 and had no start-up experience.
The only thing I had going for me was the desire to succeed. To realize my idea, I decided to switch to grind mode. Grind mode is a time when I’m not hanging out with friends, going on any dates, or traveling anywhere. This period is specifically defined to achieve a specific objective.

For the creation of my software startup, six months was a perfect time to lay my head down and grind. During those six months, I had no mental health problems or boredom. The only thing I thought about was the finished product.

After the six month period, I had a few small encounters here and there, but my personal life slowly started to drift. I did not lose the passion for what I was doing. I loved working with trends and helping designers. But the constant work and lack of human interaction outside of work slowly destroyed me. That’s when I realized I needed to balance my life.

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How I built a social life

As far as my spiritual, physical, and financial, everything was good back then. The areas I missed were family, social relationships, dating, and my mental health. To improve relationships with my family, I made it mandatory to call my dad every Thursday at 5:00 p.m. and the rest of my family on Zoom every Sunday. Doing this regularly over the past year has helped me strengthen my relationship with them.

To solve my social, dating, and mental health issues (like burnout), I decided to make it my goal to meet two new people a day. I have already set many goals in my life, but this goal has had the greatest positive impact on my life. Everything in life is a compromise. As you give more of something, you lose something elsewhere.

Here are the pros and cons I’ve noticed of taking the time to socialize in the evening after the day’s work:

The inconvenients:

  • Business performance declined slightly: I will keep this 100% real. For a few weeks/months I missed some of my business goals. It was very easy to get distracted by the idea of ​​socializing/hanging out with someone after finishing the day’s work. As a result, I ended up procrastinating a bit more and pushing things off for the next day. Overcoming this took a lot of discipline to make sure I stayed in my deep work mindset throughout the day.

  • Easier to hide from problems: Whenever there was a massive problem that I needed to address or resolve and I didn’t feel like doing it, I could temporarily hide from that pain by socializing/going out at night. In addition to the point above, I was procrastinating and avoiding issues that needed attention. I eventually managed these issues, but it was very easy to try to hide from reality by socializing in the evenings.

Advantages:

  • Improved social/love life: When I go out to socialize in the evening, I often like to go alone. The intention of going out on my own is to relax and have fun. If I meet people along the way, that’s cool. Often some of the people I meet make the best of friends. I will also find people I am compatible with whom I will ask on dates from time to time. It’s a great way to naturally build your social and love life.

  • Unexpected business collaborations/opportunities: As I meet people with whom I am compatible, I sometimes discover that we are in the same sector or in sectors that complement each other. This mutual interest often opens doors to business opportunities and collaborations.

  • Improved business/people skills: An unexpected benefit of socializing in the evenings was that my people and sales skills improved greatly. As I met more people in the evenings, I quickly learned how to deal with different personality types, carry on an engaging conversation, and connect with people on a personal level. This has benefited me exponentially within my business. It also helped me close more sales and build great relationships with people who weren’t ready to buy yet.

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Building and managing a social/love life while growing a startup allows you to fulfill different areas of your life besides finances. Fulfilling these different areas of life such as social, dating, personal, and family makes life more enjoyable and contributes to your overall mental health. Yes, there is a time and a place to focus 100% on your work, but you have to balance things out from time to time. Your physical and mental health will thank you later.

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