Woman says she can’t have a date because she’s on benefits

Woman says she can’t have a date because she’s on benefits

Woman says she can't have a date because she's on benefits

Lynn McDermott says ‘it should be about what the person is on the inside, not a disability’ (Picture: SWNS)

A disabled woman says she has been made to feel she cannot date because she is on benefits.

Lynn McDermott, 48, claims she’s even been branded a ‘parasite’ by potential suitors when they find out she’s not working.

The single mother, from Southampton, says she receives the payments legitimately, but that doesn’t stop the men she speaks to on sites like Plenty of Fish and eHarmony from obscuring her or getting mean.

She said: ‘A guy told me I was a parasite. He said, “You can walk and talk, why can’t you work?”

“I’m not financially able to date people, but most men are divorcees who seem to think I’m after their money.

“I’m not looking for any kind of alms, I’m looking for love and that’s all I want. I just want to be loved and love someone else.

Lynn, whose children grew up and left home, was diagnosed with endocarditis and underwent valve replacement on Boxing Day in 2017.

She then spent six months in a coma, from December 2017 to June 2018, before having to return to hospital a month later due to immunological problems.

After recovering from her ordeal, Lynn was later diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and was found to be immunocompromised, meaning her body was unable to fight off infection and disease.

Lynn McDermott says men refuse to date her because she is on benefits (Picture: Lynn McDermott/SWNS)

Due to her medical condition, Lynn receives Universal Credit, PIP (Personal Independence Payment) and ESA (Employment and Support Allowance) – totaling around £21,000 a year.

She said: ‘My disability is that I have heart failure, but you would never know that from looking at me.

“I’m considered disabled and unable to work because of my disability – but no one would know because I don’t have a severed leg or anything and just go on with my life.

“I had a PIP assessment and the paperwork with me with the issues I have – heart failure and not everything will get better.

‘Whether [men] ask me what i’ve done in my life they realized i’ve had a great career i’m motivated and i think let’s see what i can do.

Lynn claims she was even branded a ‘parasite’ by potential suitors after finding out she wasn’t working (Picture: Lynn McDermott/SWNS)

“I would like to ask why people on benefits are not suitable to be on dating sites – these sites ask you how much you earn and what your job is so I say around £21,000 is what I get in one year.

‘I get a lot of responses. I last went to Plenty of Fish six weeks ago and had 354 responses from people – they obviously like the look, but they just don’t appreciate that I’m disabled and benefit from allowances.

“I went out with two of them and the first words are, ‘Are you divorced? and “Do you own your own home?”

“A guy I recently dated asked about finances on the second appropriate date. I said, “What does that have to do with anything?” He said he didn’t want anyone to suck all his money because he was drunk.

“The pound signs shouldn’t be about anything, it should be about what the person is on the inside, not a disability or ‘sucking the life out of Britain’ .

The single mother, from Southampton, says she is legitimately claiming disability benefits (Picture: Lynn McDermott/SWNS)

“I’m an open book and that probably infuriates men because I’m going to challenge him. »

“I’ve had a few people say, ‘Yeah, everything you’re saying is true – but it’s still not for me and I can accept that.’

“What I don’t accept is that I’m unassailable because I’m on benefits and the people on benefits are nobody, they’re scum.

“For me, I don’t know where this hatred of profits comes from.

“All the men I interview say it’s about what I can give them rather than what they can give me and they don’t want someone who doesn’t have the ability to eliminate them.

But that’s not stopping the men she talks to on the Plenty of Fish and eharmony sites from dismissing her (Picture: Lynn McDermott/SWNS)

“I can still go out to dinner, drive, everything – financially I just keep my costs down to everything I go through.

“All I want is trust, reliability, for them to love me as much as I love them – it just shows they’re so uneducated and judgmental.”

“A strong woman behind a strong man can only be positive. It doesn’t matter if they have bank books.

“If people want to judge me without knowing me, it’s their failure.”

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